balance · self-care · soul

Taking It Slow #MomentsOfFlow #soul #mind

A few years ago, I was riding in a car with some friends, and when we were about two minutes from our destination, I unbuckled my seatbelt.  One of my friends noticed this and laughed.  “You always do that,” she said.

I was confused.

“You take off your seatbelt before we’ve actually arrived at our destination,” she explained.

I considered this, and realized it was tr4f26eac62cb2b751bdead0e5c4706aa9ue.  “It’s because I’m ready for the next activity,” I told her.  And I was.  Whatever the next activity is – going home, going for a run, saying hi to Tee, unpacking the car – I am always ready for the next activity.  In fact, sometimes I am so ready for the next activity that I’m not really present in the current activity.

I don’t want to rush through my days.  I want to savor every moment.  Especially my Moments of Flow.  (See my explanation of Moments of Flow here!)

Speaking of which – for the first time in what feels like forever, I had a Moment of Flow!  It was during a session of writing last week.  After Teddy went to bed, I sat in my kitchen with the lights off, the sunlight through the windows slowly fading, my fingers typing on the keyboard – and all of a sudden, I felt it.  I was in Flow.

It felt lovely.  So happy and free.  When I have a Moment of Flow, I just want to stop, freeze, and breathe it in.  I turned off Netflix; it was playing in the background, but when I’m in Flow, I don’t need the distraction of a television show.  I just need to soak up the moment.

I found myself wondering why this Moment of Flow came.  Was it because I was writing?  Because the lights were out?  Because I was surrounded by books, flipping through them in search of inspirational snippets?  Was it my stretching?  Scradf50d522f43ebe7832b177d001e0240ctching my head?

I don’t know.  Maybe I’ll never know.  But I have a suspicion that it helps to slow down.  To take my time.  I often find myself rushing through the day for absolutely no reason.  One of my quick fixes lately has been to simply slow down.  I stop whatever I’m doing, and I start doing it more slowly.  I even walk slow – purposefully, carefully.  It’s a way of resetting my internal metronome.  Reminding myself that I don’t have to rush from thing to thing to thing to thing to thing.  

There are always so many things.  But my life goal is to enjoy every moment.  And you can’t enjoy any moments if you’ve already taken off your seatbelt and gotten wrapped up in the next moment.  For me, it’s all about taking one moment at a time – doing one thing at a time, fully.  

mindfulness · self-care

#MomentsOfFlow #heartsoulmindbody

Sometimes I’ll be at the farmers market, helping a customer or re-stocking our table of veggies, and I’ll have a Moment.

These Moments are difficult to describe, but I’m going to give it a try.

The Moment will feel incredibly peaceful and serene.  I’ll get a feeling that a sense of peace and serenity is washing over me.  I’ll feel like at that moment, I am exactly where I am meant to be and I’m doing exactly what I am imagemeant to be doing.

I love these moments.  I tend to move very slowly and carefully when I am having one of these moments; I don’t want to scare it away.  I also tend to not talk about these moments, especially while I’m in the midst of one, for the same reason.  I try to be as still as I can, within whatever I am doing at that moment, and just allow the moment to continue.

Lately I notice these moments frequently during the farmers market, but I have them at other times, too.  Sometimes I’ll have a Moment when I’m just at home, reading or relaxing or cleaning up the house.  Sometimes I’ll have a Moment when I’m at work, in the middle of a therapy session with a child.

I’ve read a little bit about Flow.  In Mihal Csikszentmihalyi’s book Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, he describes flow as ” a state of concentration or complete absorpalways-live-in-the-moment-sourcetion with the activity at hand and the situation.”  He talks a lot about people at their professions being in flow – like an artist who is “in the groove” or a surgeon being “in the zone.”  When people are in Flow, they’re totally immersed in what they’re doing.

What Csikszentmihalyi describes resonates with me, which is why I sometimes refer to my moments as Moments Of Flow.  I think that these Moments Of Flow are indicators that I am living in the moment and being mindful.  I also think that these Moments usually occur when my heart, soul, mind, and body feel nourished and strong.  Which is another motivation to keep myself balanced – so I can have more and more Moments Of Flow!