It’s my birthday!
Every year on my birthday, Tamara and I go to a coffee shop for some conversation, writing, and reading over coffee.
This coffee date has changed greatly since Edgar was born in 2016, and this year was even trickier with two little ones to chase around. Yet the tradition stands.
During my birthday coffee date, I like to reflect, and I like to write. A birthday is a great day to think about where things are at in my life and where I’d like things to be. I find that on my birthday, I can usually maintain a really healthy and optimistic perspective; I don’t beat myself up for my shortcomings, and I don’t cry over regrets. I just think, and hope, and make plans for the future.
These days, things in my life are pretty great – adorable kids, wonderful wife, good job – and the things that aren’t great (lack of sleep, no time to write) are temporary.
These are my birthday thoughts about my current state of affairs:
1. I can’t wait for Baby J.J. to start sleeping through the night to get back into my writing routine. We’re nowhere close to that happening, and if writing is my priority, then it needs to happen now. Same for meditation, exercise, and overall self-care.
2. Lately, I spend a lot of time zoning out on Netflix. I do it while I’m feeding Jonas, or when I’m wiped out at the end of the day, or I’ll have it in the background while I do dishes or fold laundry. This has to stop. I’d much rather use this time for writing. I may not be able to sit down and do any deep work, but I can jot down a blog post or reread a draft. Or I can just daydream about a novel or a story. I don’t have much time for writing or thinking; I want to make the most of the time I have.
3. I need to get specific about my goals for writing. My specific goal for 2019 is to finish a good draft of a novel. One of my big plans for 2019 is to start setting monthly writing goals so that I can keep myself on track.
This week has been really magical. For the first time in a long time, I’ve been feeling inspired and the creative energy has been flowing. I have so many ideas, for everything from blog posts to children’s books to novels. AND I have so many ideas for ways to make everyday life smoother and more efficient. I feel incredibly grateful for this creative flow – it’s not something that switches on and off automatically so I appreciate the flow when it comes.
Thanks to Tamara, Edgar, J.J., and my extended family, today has been a wonderful day. I’m grateful for family, love, and the creative flow. Here’s hoping I can stay in this flow as the new year approaches!