We had a party a few Saturdays ago. It was a fun and festive celebration with family and friends.
And then, Sunday morning, my introvert hangover kicked in.
This is really a THING. I love spending time with other people, but man – I just get exhausted,
I completed a full Myers-Briggs Type Indicator in 2005, and that’s about what I realized that I’m an introvert. Prior to then, I would get frustrated with myself. Why did everyone else like going out every night, clubbing, going to parties? Why did I always prefer movie nights to bar hopping?
When I took the Myers-Briggs test, I actually scored as a very introverted extrovert – right on the line. The kind of person who wanted to have a New Year’s Eve party, but wanted it to be small and possibly allow for a few minutes of quiet time to journal and reflect.
Discovering this about myself was freeing. I felt less guilty about wanting time alone and I allowed myself time to process rather than feeling forced to express myself immediately, which comes easier to extroverts, I think.
I also don’t want to limit myself, and I think I do that sometimes. I tell myself that I’m not the kind of person who can train large groups of people, or who can make friends easily. Those things aren’t true. I want to be self-aware – but I don’t ever want to let my self-awareness result in me subconsciously putting limits on who I can be.
But this introvert hangover was real. I spent my Sunday morning doing a lot of what I call puttering around. Is this a common term? Do people know what it is? It’s something I’ve said my whole life, but is it in the dictionary?
Okay, yes! It is in the dictionary. To putter means to “occupy oneself in a desultory but pleasant manner, doing a number of small tasks or not concentrating on anything particular.” And it’s one of my favorite things to do to decompress – just be at home, in my space, tidying and writing and making lists and doing lots of little things but not much of anything.
I need that decompressing after expending lots of energy entertaining others. How do others decompress?