Tee and I read The Happiness Project (another of Gretchen’s books) several years ago; we’d take turns reading chapters out loud to each other. The focus of Gretchen’s first two books on happiness – The Happiness Project and Happier at Home – was how Gretchen made small but significant changes in her everyday life to increase her happiness. She pores through all the research on what makes people happy, and she pulls out helpful tips and makes resolutions about ways she can act and be that will increase her personal happiness.
Here are my thoughts about some of my favorites of Gretchen’s Secrets of Adulthood:
- What you do EVERY DAY matters more than what you do ONCE IN A WHILE. Yes! This morning is a perfect example; I woke up late and I had a lot less time for my morning writing. So I decided to make sure I wrote for five minutes, instead of the usual 30, to keep the habit in place.
- People don’t notice your mistakes and flaws as much as you think. Our ego tricks us into thinking that what we do, who we are, how we fail, is the most important thing in the universe. It’s not. We are part of a vast, infinite universe, and what we do is only hugely important to us. Yes, others care about us – but they don’t ruminate about our mistakes and flaws nearly as much as we do.
- If you’re not failing, you’re not trying hard enough. I have a lot of fear about putting myself out into the universe and then being rejected or hurt. But out there in the arena – that’s where all the good stuff is, too.